Is something missing in your relationship...your marriage.  Couples come to therapy seeking to revive love, intimacy, communication and sex in their relationship: which have deminished over time in response to conflict experiences of various sorts, and; which have arisen from unsuccessful attempts at problem solving within the course of the relationship, and; which may have led to increasingly negative reactive interactions and situations that include - threats of divorce, infidelity or cheating, fighting, anxiety, substance abuse, emotional withdrawal, conflict over earning/spending, or any number of things.  Think about you relationship for a moment...does the process I just described sound familiar...and, is that why you are viewing this website...in hopes of figuring out, just what is the problem your having in your relationship...and how do relationships resolve these kinds of problems?  

 The truth is...if you are experiencing relationship problems...you are normal.  And, you and your spouse or partner can learn how to have a better, more satisfing relationship...a marriage.  Does that sound good to you?

 Great!  That's why I am here and ready to help you both with Couples Relationship Counseling, Marriage Therapy or Pre-Marital Counseling. 

 Couples therapy helps partners by creating a safe growing context where emotionally charged issues in the relationship can be explored and where each partner develops awareness of how their behavior and inner emotions and thoughts contribute to the problem situation.  Most of my practice is in couples' therapy.  Sometimes a client begins individual therapy and we transition to include their significant other later.   Yes, couples/marital therapy is hard work for some clients...looking at your own history and seeing how it impacts your relationship today is challenging...however, given that it's not going as well as you want currently, it is work that is vital to your present and future potential for marital and life satisfaction.  The outcome of the couples relationships counseling and marital therapy I'll be assisting you with, can be transformative for both of you...and your families.

 With humility, respect and care to understand your unique situation and story of your own life, I flexibly pursue the application of various therapeutic approaches that are available, with the aim of appling them in a progressive progression, and with a focus toward providing you with the deepest level of healing and growth that you would like to obtain.  Personally, I would like all my clients to develope and to integrate their deep core beliefs and affections...their spirituality...into their daily practical relationship interactions.  My conviction is - that by learning to live with such psychological and spiritual intent, you will experience your relationships begin to mutually and reciprocally sound like...look like...and, feel like...you are being capable - with integrity; being confident - with respect and humility; and especially like you are...being loving and being loved - in relation to self, to spouse, family, friends, and God. 

 In counseling I emphasize the goals of increasing couple agreement, increasing effective communication and problem solving, decreasing emotional reactivity and thereby increasing intimacy and over-all personal and marital satisfaction.  In therapy I emphasize the awareness and recognition of maladaptive emotions and thoughts, seeing them as repeated patterns that may be nearly unconciously and almost involutarily sabatoging your best relational goals and expectations.  Or maybe intentionaly.  And when indicated and appropriate during the course of couple and marital work, I emphasize the recognition or discovery of more deeply unconcious negative patterns that likely originated in past hurt or abuse, family dysfunction, recent trauma, or from maladaptive beliefs that have been absorbed over time from living within the larger culture and society we have all grown up in and are continuously exposed to.